It’s ironic that the communication required to move beyond the issues we face in our relationships is seldom addressed.

People who have been out of a relationship for a long time cry as they forgive each other and accept responsibility for what happened. They share a passion for each other that existed before the tough times. look here

We’re in a sprint, full of desire and sexual excitement, looking for something to blow up with.

We paste an illusion about what we want onto another human like a mask, holding on to an illusion about what we want. The mask begins to wear thin over time, and the illusion begins to fade. The other person’s personality begins to emerge. What they believe about the world, themselves, and us is reflected in the fantasy character we developed for them.

In all of its defects, body hair, and table manners, reality sets in. And, of course, when we see how much they’ve evolved since the sweet beginnings of love, our chosen one is most definitely seeing us from a different perspective. If either party in the relationship was truthful, this condition would not exist, and the illusion would not last. However, aren’t we trying to mask all of those little flaws at first?

Before committing to a long-term relationship, I agree that each partner’s convictions must be thoroughly examined. To say exactly what’s on your mind and in your heart, you’ll need sincerity and a degree of neutral communication. Then take the time to feel, hear, and see your true self without the filters and judgments of others. You can only see through the passion, fantasy, with this clarity.

And you’ll learn about the other person’s values and fundamental convictions, and once that’s done, you’ll be able to progress to a higher degree of genuine confidence and intimacy.

Honest, open contact in any interaction allows us to gain a better understanding of a person’s depth and base.